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Mary Messerschmidt

Experienced LCSW focused on practical change

LCSW Virginia

Experience
25 years in practice
Focus areas
Addictions, Relationship, Intimacy-related issues
Approaches
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
Languages
English

About Mary

Mary Messerschmidt is a Virginia-licensed LCSW with 25 years of clinical practice helping people navigate addiction, relationship and intimacy challenges, mood concerns such as bipolar disorder and depression, anxiety and stress, and trauma and grief.

Background and approach

She also works with issues related to self-esteem, parenting, caregiving stress, ADHD, substance use, and a wide range of attachment and personality-related struggles. Her background includes long-term psychotherapy and recent training in life coaching to expand ways of supporting clients through transitions and goal-directed change.

Her approach centers on building an authentic therapeutic relationship that honors each person's life story, paired with skills-based methods to address current problems. Mary blends cognitive behavioral techniques with acceptance-based practices, attachment-informed perspectives, client-centered empathy, and DBT strategies when helpful.

She emphasizes practical interventions while respecting each client's values and pace of change. Sessions are offered in English to residents of Virginia via video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging, and she does not accept international clients.

Mary’s practice is oriented toward collaborative work to help clients translate difficult experiences into forward movement.

Therapeutic approaches and online care that fit your life

Mary commonly incorporates Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) into her practice. CBT focuses on identifying unhelpful thought and behavior patterns and developing practical strategies to change them, which can help with anxiety, depression, and coping with stress. ACT emphasizes accepting difficult internal experiences while clarifying personal values and committing to actions that support those values, useful for chronic stress, grief, and motivation challenges. She also draws on Attachment-Based Therapy to explore relational patterns and how early bonds affect current relationships.

Finding the right approach is a collaborative process. Mary works with each client to determine which combination of methods fits their needs, goals, and preferences, adjusting the plan over time based on progress and feedback.

Online therapy with her uses video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging to offer flexibility for different schedules and communication styles. These options make it easier to maintain regular sessions, continue work through life transitions, and access therapeutic support without travel, while allowing therapists to use skills training, coaching exercises, and relational exploration in remote formats.

Frequently asked questions

What concerns does Mary commonly address?
She works with addictions, relationship and intimacy issues, anxiety and stress, mood disorders such as bipolar and depression, trauma and grief, self-esteem and parenting concerns, and related areas like ADHD and caregiver stress.
What is Mary’s general therapeutic style?
Her style emphasizes a caring, authentic relationship combined with practical, skills-oriented interventions tailored to each person's needs and values.
How much clinical experience does she have?
Mary brings 25 years of clinical experience working in psychotherapy and has recently added life coaching to her toolkit.
What credentials and location are listed?
She is licensed as an LCSW in Virginia with license number VA LCSW 0904004851 and practices with clients located in Virginia.
Which languages are available for sessions and can she see international clients?
Sessions are conducted in English and she is not currently accepting international clients.
In what formats are sessions offered?
Mary offers video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging to provide a range of remote session formats.
How are costs handled for ongoing sessions?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions use a subscription model that can be canceled at any time.
What are the first steps to begin working together?
Start by selecting the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and then schedule sessions according to the therapist's availability.

Areas of expertise

Primary focus

AddictionsRelationship issuesIntimacy-related issuesSelf esteemBipolar disorder

Also works with

Stress, AnxietyLGBTFamily conflictsTrauma and abuseGriefParenting issuesAnger managementCareer difficultiesDepressionCoping with life changesCoachingCompassion fatigueADHD

Additional focus areas

AbandonmentAdoption and foster careAttachment issuesAutism and Asperger SyndromeAvoidant personalityCaregiver issues and stressCodependencyCommitment issuesControl issuesCoping with natural or human-caused disasterDependent personalityDisruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD)Divorce and separationDomestic violenceDrug and alcohol addictionEating and food-related issuesEmptinessFamily of origin issuesFamily problemsFatherhood issuesFertility issuesFirst responder issuesForgivenessGuilt and shameHIV / AIDSImpulsivityInfidelityIntellectual disabilityIsolation / lonelinessJealousyLife purposeMen's issuesMidlife crisisMood disordersMulticultural concernsNarcissismObsessions, compulsions, and OCDParanoiaPersonality disordersPostpartum depressionProcess addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)Self-loveSex addictionSexual assault and abuseSexualitySocial anxiety and phobiaTrichotillomaniaWomen's issuesWorkplace issuesYoung adult issues

Therapeutic approaches

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)Attachment-Based TherapyClient-Centered TherapyCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)Existential TherapyImago Relationship TherapyMotivational InterviewingNarrative TherapyPsychodynamic TherapySolution-Focused Therapy

Experience

25+ years

Licensed

Virginia

Languages

English