Nicole Thomte

Affirming therapy for relationship and identity challenges

LMFT Minnesota

Experience: 13 years in practice
Focus areas: Stress, Anxiety, LGBT, Relationship
Approaches: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Client-Centered Therapy
Languages: English

About Nicole

Nicole Thomte is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) practicing in Minnesota with 13 years of clinical experience. She brings a history of working with people who face marginalization and aims to provide affirmative, sex-positive support for clients navigating relationship, intimacy, and identity concerns.

Background and approach

Nicole emphasizes collaborative work that honors each person's expertise about their own life rather than relying primarily on diagnostic labels. Her approach blends solution-focused techniques with client-centered and cognitive-behavioral strategies, and she incorporates trauma-informed perspectives when relevant.

Nicole describes her style as exploratory and accepting, with an openness to humor as a tool for easing stress. Her background includes extensive group facilitation and work with survivors of sex- and gender-based violence, which informs a trauma-aware, advocacy-minded practice.

Nicole lists a wide range of areas of focus including stress, anxiety, mood disorders, relationship and intimacy issues, grief, trauma and abuse, ADHD, and concerns related to gender and sexuality. She also works with people engaging in kink, BDSM, consensual non-monogamy, and other alternative sexual cultures, and attends to multicultural and discrimination-related impacts on mental health.

Therapeutic approaches online: collaborative tools and techniques

Nicole often uses Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to help clients identify unhelpful thought and behavior patterns and develop practical strategies for managing anxiety, mood concerns, and stress. CBT focuses on the links between thoughts, feelings, and actions and is useful for tackling specific symptoms and daily challenges.

She also draws from Client-Centered Therapy, which prioritizes empathic listening and acceptance to create a space where clients can explore values, identity, and relationship dynamics at their own pace. This approach supports work on intimacy, sexuality, and identity-related concerns by centering the client’s perspective.

Finding the right mix of methods is part of the collaborative process; the therapist will work with clients to tailor techniques to individual goals, preferences, and presenting problems. Together they determine which strategies to emphasize and adjust over time as progress unfolds.

Online therapy offers flexibility for engaging in this work through video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging. These options make it easier to fit regular sessions into busy schedules, maintain continuity during life changes, and access consistent support from a licensed professional without commuting to an office.

Frequently asked questions

What concerns does Nicole commonly address in therapy?

Nicole works with a broad set of issues including stress, anxiety, depression, bipolar mood concerns, trauma and abuse, relationship and intimacy problems, grief, anger, career stress, ADHD, and compassion fatigue.

How would you describe her therapeutic style and approach?

Her style is exploratory and accepting, emphasizing collaboration and the client’s expertise in their own life while drawing on client-centered, CBT, DBT, and solution-focused techniques.

What kind of experience does she bring to sessions?

She has 13 years of experience including work in behavioral health agencies and long-term involvement facilitating survivor groups and providing individual, couple, and family therapy.

Where is she licensed and based?

Nicole is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist practicing in Minnesota; her license is listed as MN LMFT 3853.

Which languages are available for sessions?

Sessions are conducted in English; she is not currently accepting international clients.

What session formats does she offer?

Nicole provides several online options including video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging to accommodate different needs.

How are fees and payment handled?

Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions are provided through a subscription model that can be canceled at any time.

How do I begin working with her?

To get started, select the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule according to therapist availability.

Areas of expertise

Primary focus

Stress, AnxietyLGBTRelationship issuesIntimacy-related issuesSelf esteem

Also works with

Family conflictsTrauma and abuse GriefAnger managementCareer difficultiesBipolar disorderDepression Coping with life changes Compassion fatigue ADHD

Additional focus areas

BDSM, kink, and alternative sex cultureChronic pain, illness, and disabilityCommunication problemsGender dysphoriaMood disordersMulticultural concernsPanic disorder and panic attacks PhobiasPolyamory / non-monogamous relationshipsPrejudice and discriminationSexualityWomen's issues

Therapeutic approaches

Client-Centered TherapyCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)Motivational InterviewingSolution-Focused TherapyTrauma-Focused Therapy

Experience

13+ years

Licensed

Minnesota

Languages

English